Do You Know What Turns You On?

Life by Design, Mindset, Self Worth • March 3, 2024

Do you know what turns YOU on? 

I know, you’re like “Whoa Terica! That’s a little personal!” lol 

The #1 complaint I hear from men is they don’t get enough sex.

The #1 complaint I hear from women is they’re too exhausted.

None of this is even about sex. It’s about connection and intimacy.

So…this leaves me wondering, do you even know what turns YOU on?

Do you and your partner regularly communicate about your needs when it comes to connection and intimacy?

I recently asked this simple yet profound question on my social media platforms: ‘Do you know what turns you on?’ The responses poured in, each one offering a glimpse into the unique tapestry of human connection.

As I read through the heartfelt comments, I couldn’t help but be moved by the collective wisdom shared. It’s clear that in the hustle and bustle of life, we often overlook the small, everyday gestures that have the power to deepen our bonds and ignite the flames of intimacy.

Here’s the list in no particular order:

  1. Teaching me new things!
  2. The ability to have deep and meaningful conversations about things that really matter.
  3. Taking initiative AND following through!
  4. Caring about hygiene and appearance daily, not just on special occasions. 
  5. Strong, tight bear hugs. Especially after a long or emotional day.
  6. Admitting when wrong and acknowledging when someone else is right.
  7. Showing appreciation and gratitude. 
  8. Having personal goals and dreams and taking actions toward them.
  9. Listening and remembering the important little details.
  10. Being present. No phone. No TV. No distractions.
  11. Surprising me with one of my favorite things (food, flowers, massage, etc)
  12. Having a silly and playful side that comes out at unexpected times. 
  13. Honoring your word and actions matching words.
  14. Living life intentionally, on purpose and with passion.
  15. Being vulnerable.
  16. Sarcasm, witty bander and a sense of humor. The ability to sling a joke and take one right back.
  17. Confidence! Knowing who you are and what you want.
  18. Acts of service that help reduce my load/responsibilities. 
  19. Master of emotions and a healthy relationship with one’s ego. 
  20. Self-discipline.
  21. Caring about how your actions affect others.
  22. Being listened to with the intent of gaining understanding.
  23. Curiosity.
  24. Physical affection; public and private.
  25. Being kind and standing up for others.

From the warmth of a shared glance to the comfort of a reassuring touch, it’s these seemingly insignificant moments that weave the fabric of our relationships. Whether it’s engaging in deep conversations that stir the soul or simply being present in each other’s company, it’s these acts of tenderness and care that nourish the roots of love.

So, as we navigate the complexities of modern life, let’s not forget to pause and appreciate the beauty in the simplicity of human connection. Let’s cherish those quiet moments of togetherness, where words fade into the background and only the language of the heart remains.

Thank you, each and every one of you, for reminding us all of the profound magic that resides in the ordinary. Let’s continue to nurture and cultivate these sacred moments, for it is in them that the true essence of love resides. Sending you all my love <3

Here’s to another week of living your life by design, not by default!