My daughter asked me if I wanted coffee or ice cream. After I shot her a side eye, I said “BOTH!”!  And it got me thinking about how all our lives, we’ve been told we had to “choose”…

Family or Freedom
Success or Happiness
Love or Independence
Stability or Adventure
Career or Self-care
Gratitude or Growth
Security or Possibility

But here’s what I’ve learned after decades of living, growing, healing, and rebuilding:
Life doesn’t come in either/or.
Life is an AND.

->  I can care deeply for my daughter and my grandbabies AND still want a life that’s mine. Yes, I’ll always show up for them AND I also get to want more than just being “Mom” and “Munga” (as Finnley calls me LOL)

->  I can be almost 50 and single AND be fulfilled, happy, and wildly in love with myself.
(I haven’t met the man who can keep up with me —> and that’s okay. )

->  I can do things I love AND build a business that gives me freedom to travel

->  I can love my hometown AND not want it to be my forevertown.

The rulebook says you have to choose.
I say screw that. I can have my cake AND eat it too.  AND so can YOU.

Because the “AND Life” isn’t selfish.
It’s alignment.

Here’s where a lot of us (especially moms, caregivers, and entrepreneurs) get stuck:

We’ve been told that wanting more makes us ungrateful for what we already have. That choosing ourselves means betraying someone else. That balance requires sacrifice.

But those are all lies. And those lies are keeping you stuck, small, and settling.

The truth is this:

->  You can love your life exactly as it is AND still want more.

->  You can feel gratitude AND desire.

->.  You can be present in this moment AND be wildly ambitious about what’s next.

Expansion doesn’t cancel out contentment. It amplifies it.

This doesn’t just apply to life —> it’s just as true in business.

->  You can build a business that feels aligned with your values AND still be leaving money on the table with opportunities you can’t yet see.

->  You can be excellent at your craft AND need support in the strategy that takes you to the next level.

->  You can be a strong, visionary leader AND feel the weight of carrying it all alone.

The AND creates possibility. It’s what opens the doors you didn’t even know were there.

I’ve lived this truth. Now? I refuse to settle. I choose AND.

And that’s what I help my clients do too.

~  To live a life they love AND expand into more.

~  To build businesses that feel soulful AND profitable.

~  To claim success AND ease.

~  To thrive in their careers AND their relationships.

~  To be compassionate AND set healthy boundaries.

So here’s my question for you:

Where have you been settling for “either/or” when what you really crave is “and”?

Because life is too big, too beautiful, and too precious to settle for half of your desires.
 You are allowed to want more.
 You are allowed to expand.
 You are allowed to have both.

The “AND” life isn’t selfish. It’s alignment.

If you’re ready to make some changes…before the new year rolls around…here are a few ways we can work together:

Individuals – Whether you’re craving alignment, clarity, confidence, or strategy with soul-filling success, this is where we turn down all the noise and help you find your way back to YOU and into a more aligned and peaceful future. If you’re ready to get out of overwhelm and unstuck, let’s connect! Plus, for the month of September, you’ll get a bonus 21-day challenge to keep the momentum going long after our session.

Entrepreneurs – Business Strategy Sessions are game changing! Intentionally designed to help you prepare for 2026 with clarity, aligned action, and a clear plan to grow sustainably. Plus, for the month of September, you’ll get a bonus custom 21-day challenge to keep you in action after the intensive. (I am also about to launch Unleashed & Unstoppable; a year long program with built in accountability, strategy, and community. If that sounds like the level of support you need, let’s chat!)

Leaders –  And for my corporate leaders out there, if you need expertise in OCM, leadership development, or training strategy —> keep me on your radar. That’s my jam. I also offer a Culture and Retention Audit to identify the leadership, onboarding, communication and trust issues that are quietly costing you your best people (and big dollar$)

No matter how we work together, the energy is always the same: human, soulful, intentional, and powerful.

You don’t have to choose. You get to have it all. 

Let’s design the path that feels aligned for you. 

Until next time, here’s to living your life by design, not default.